So, in most situations, unless it can be proven that you will pose a risk to, or harm, your child, you will usually be granted some kind of contact. She just left for an (approved) weekend off and the CEO just sent her a text thanking her for putting in her two weeks. If it is important that the two of you need to talk, your ex will eventually open up. Such a MN cliche, but I used to get really pissed off with my ex for giving DS undiluted fruit shoot and ribena at 14 months old! Older children may become withdrawn, show disinterest or just be blunt and say, 'I don’t want to go'. If you have trouble respecting anything else about your former spouse, at least respect the fact that they are your child’s parent and treat them accordingly. In 2014, the government introduced a presumption that the continued involvement of both parents in a child’s life will best promote that child’s welfare. Parents often lament that children have minds of their own, and there's no doubt that this statement rings true for many families. I've been divorced for some years now and we have joint custody of our two boys, ages 10 and 8. My problem is that he will not communicate with me at all. I would also suggest you talk to the coach and explain the situation. Do you know how long it has been? Every time we agree on a visit, she doesn’t show up. When the mom asked him why he didn't return the daughter's phone calls, he replied: “I don't have anything to say.” So instead, I suggest the following: 1. Talk to the absent parent. It doesn't hurt to research good family lawyers even after your divorce is final. He has access to the children via a court order but refuses to pay maintenance, even though the CSA have taken him to court once already. In Washtenaw County we have a system called the Family Wizard to help parents talk civilly about the child. Today we are going to be talking about why your ex refuses to talk to you after a breakup. Reasonable divorced parents are typically able to work out disagreements without resorting to lawyers. Once the smoke has cleared from a divorce, former spouses have to go about the business of raising kids together. You should talk to an attorney. Even though you may have a custody and access schedule, a parenting plan, a separation agreement, or court order that says when you spend time with your child, your partner may not let you see your child. However, there's not a lot of tolerance when a child exercises that willpower by refusing visitation. Sometimes a child may say they do not want to visit you, the noncustodial parent. 'After a few hours of staying at mine, my son says he wants to go home and doesn’t want to stay overnight.' Additionally, your ex-spouse should not be turning your child against you or trying to get your child to refuse visitation. Each state has different laws from other states. Since its so late, I have told ex we will have to talk another time- please put the kids on- refuses. Write one every day if you need to. Today, we’re going to talk about 11 reasons why your ex won’t talk to you anymore. This also gives you certain rights that you can take advantage of if your ex won’t obey the orders. And take heart: most cases of visitation refusal are temporary. He is obstanate and refuses to talk to me face to face, everything has to be done via email or text. When they are with me, he does not call them nor does he try and see them extra. Many reasons that may include but may not be limited to the following: 1. We are going to be looking at advanced psychological research on ghosting, reputable polls about breakups and drawing on my own experience of coaching people for a living to come up with legitimate reasons for why your ex won’t talk to you.. Oh, and I haven’t even told you about the best part yet. 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